Why do we need other people to tell us how good we are? Why do we feel the need to hear it from someone who doesn't know us nearly as well as we know ourselves? One of the hardest things to do is to look at yourself objectively and honestly say to yourself "I am a good person". Guilt plays a major role in this. Often we feel guilty for getting things for our own benefit, when really we should not feel any negativity at all. We should celebrate.